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New Board / Bride & Beyond
« on: November 18, 2021, 11:24:28 am »
Wedding Planning and Newly Weds forum. Discuss your wedding day plans; get ideas and inspiration for themes, venues and honeymoon locations. Chat with other about life as a newly married couple.

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New Board / Work & Finance
« on: November 18, 2021, 11:23:39 am »
Discuss money matters, maternity pay, benefits, rights and entitlements. Working while pregnant or thinking about going back to work? Ask any related questions here.

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New Board / Complete Families
« on: November 18, 2021, 11:22:45 am »
This forum is for families who are not planning to have more children. Whether it is out of choice, for medical reasons or finances this is the place to talk to other parents who are in a similar situation.

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New Board / Home Life & Relationships
« on: November 18, 2021, 11:22:02 am »
Family and home life can sometimes be hectic. Let off some steam and seek some friendly advice from others. Threads made in this forum are not viewable to guests.

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New Board / Dieting, Weight Loss & Fitness
« on: November 17, 2021, 10:56:01 am »
Discuss weight, dieting and exercise tips, ideas and share advice with other members. Use this forum for healthy eating, diet and fitness support.

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New Board / Your Health & Wellbeing
« on: November 17, 2021, 10:55:15 am »
The health of you and your family is very important. Discuss heath issues in this forum. Smoking, doctors appointments, natural remedies and general wellbeing.

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New Board / Nap Time: Share your best tips here
« on: November 17, 2021, 09:43:05 am »
1.       Keep your child on a consistent schedule.
2.       Be patient! It might take your child longer to wind down when they get a little older.
3.       If your child skips their nap, put them to bed earlier that night.
4.       Make nap time fun. Read a story or sing a song that has them closing their eyes.
5.       If they will no longer nap, give them quiet time instead. Let them relax in their room or on the couch.

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New Board / Teaching Your Child: ABCs, Colors, & More!
« on: November 17, 2021, 09:42:27 am »
1. Make learning fun.
2. Don't stress about it.
3. Read together.
4. Repetition is key.
5. Don't compare your child to other kids.
6. Use puzzles, fridge magnets, and foam bath toys to help teach ABCs, numbers, and shapes.
7. Books, DVDs, flash cards, and learning websites can help in the learning process.

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New Board / Preschool Share your best tips here!
« on: November 17, 2021, 09:41:43 am »
1.    Talk about what your child can expect (other kids, teachers, listening, etc).

2.    Help your child feel more comfortable by setting up play dates with other kids in class.
3.    Use Pre-K workbooks to help familiarize and reinforce learning.
4.    Allow your child to be more independent at home.
5.    Be consistent.

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New Board / Picky Eaters Share your tips here!
« on: November 17, 2021, 09:40:06 am »
1.       Don't make a big deal out of eating.
2.       Have your children help in the prep work for cooking.
3.       Make sandwiches into fun shapes using cookie cutters.
4.       Change undesirable textures by using blenders and knives to make things more kid friendly.
5.       Let your kids help pick recipes and do the shopping.
6.       Offer dips with food (vanilla yogurt , applesauce, ketchup, ranch dressing, etc).
7.       Be patient.

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New Board / Discipline - Share your best tips here!
« on: November 17, 2021, 09:39:10 am »
1. Be firm and consistent.

2. Follow through on any threats you make.
3. Get down on the child’s level and talk in a soft voice without yelling.
4. Use positive reinforcement and direction.
5. 123 Magic is a popular technique. Your child has until the count of three to stop the bad behavior. If you make it to three they receive punishment.

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New Board / ASD Moms:
« on: November 17, 2021, 09:37:52 am »
Click here for help with Diagnosis, Treatment, Potty Training & More...

It might start with a motherly instinct or the concern of a doctor, teacher, or family member. No matter what the initial signs, finding a diagnosis is often the next step - but where to begin?
We'd like to help!
The awesome moms in this group have shared valuable information, ideas, experience and support.
So you've received your diagnosis...now what?  Biomedical, nutritional, alternative, occupational therapy, speech therapy, physical therapy, neurobehavioral psychology, ABA, early intervention, socialization.  What does it all mean? And how do you know what's right for YOUR child?
Let your fellow moms help you navigate the dizzying sea of treatment options!
From Play Therapy and the Higashi Method to TEACCH and Relationship Development Intervention, there are many different treatment plans.
Members of our wonderful group have posted many personal stories about meltdowns, offered helpful tips, reached out to each other for support and shared helpful information and resources.
Get started with these 5 tips then click below to find more:need to do for them and ignore everybody else.
5. Use rewards
~ Encourage good behavior with a rewards program. Are you looking for help disciplining your ASD child?  You've come to the right place!  Our moms have "been there, done that" and have shared some great advice.
Here are just a few helpful tips shared by moms just like you:
 
1. Base your discipline style on their level of understanding
Higher functioning children can understand rewards and punishments while low functioning children may respond better to redirection rather than consequences.2. Make sure they know why they're being disciplined
Put an "If/Then" chart on the fridge so they know what's expected and what will happen if they don't obey.
Get down on their level and make sure you have their attention before you speak.
Discuss with your child what they did wrong then make them repeat it back to you.
For lower functioning children, repeat short sentences they might understand.  Example: If he turns the TV up too loud -  say "Too loud, too loud, too loud" while turning down the TV.
 3. Use rewards along with consequences
Take away a privilege for bad behavior (TV, video games, computer) but be sure to reward GOOD behavior as well. 4. Redirect
Replace "bad" behavior (throwing a ball in the house) with "good" behavior (take your child outside to throw instead).
Engage them in a calming activity.
Remove them from the situation and offer an alternate, positive activity.
 
5. Be consistent and firm
Don't threaten a consequence without following through.
Be sure you discipline for the same behavior (good and bad) with consistency.
Don't back down from a consequence.
ASD children can be very literal.  Make sure you are telling them to stop a behavior rather than asking.
 6. Allow room for change
Be prepared to adjust your discipline style as your child ages and develops. Potty training.  Every mom has to deal with it.  But when your child is ASD, you face unique challenges, and need support from people who really understand.
Moms in this group are here to help!
You can start right here by reading these 8 favorite tips shared by moms just like you, then scroll down for even more information and advice!

Don’t stress or force it.  Your child will pick up on your stress and resist using the toilet.
Use routine to your advantage.  For a child who thrives on schedules, add regularly timed potty visits to their daily routine.   For example, sit them on the toilet every 30 minutes or hour (or gradually add in more trips to the bathroom over a few days).Pay attention to sensory details and adjust as necessary.   Sometimes changing the lighting, toilet paper, or the location of a potty can help.
Get a bathroom buddy.  Having another sibling potty train at the same time helps many learn to use the toilet.  And don't forget to let your child know each time you’re going to use the bathroom.
Celebrate.  Don’t forget to focus on each victory.  Whether it’s staying dry for a few hours or letting you know when they need to go to the bathroom.  It’s not just about going on the toilet, but also the positive reinforcement along the way.
Use rewards.  This doesn’t work for everyone, but some kids are motivated by sticker charts, toys, or high fives.  Find out what motivates

1. Be Proactive
~ Use these tools to stop meltdowns before they begin: Take note of what triggers meltdowns so you can avoid those places/behaviors/situations, set a schedule and explain expectations to your child, be clear about consequences.
2. Use Distraction
~ Try to head off tantrums before they occur by distracting your child with something they like -- a book or favorite toy, a calming exercise or game.
3. Pick your battles
~ If your child is in a safe place, sometimes allowing the meltdown will help it end sooner.

4. Ignore others
~ Public tantrums can be particularly frustrating.  The best thing you can do is focus on your child and what your child and keep a hearty supply handy.
Be patient.
Don’t give up!
Are you looking for information on school for your ASD child?  We've got tons!
Whether you're deciding between homeschool or public school, struggling with specific school issues, trying to find information about school services for your child, or looking for advice on when to start school, your fellow moms have been there!
 

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New Board / Tips on Raising Step Kids - Discipline, Boundaries, & More...
« on: November 17, 2021, 09:35:32 am »
Here are some tips from the moms in this group:
Put the child's needs first
Don't talk negatively about either birth parent
Try to minimize tension and aggression
Be creative with visitation when it comes to friends, activities and holidays
Consider your position (are you custodial stepmom, co-parenting with a birth mom or something else) and support the bio-parents
Let your spouse take the lead
Pick your battles; be positive, calm, cool and collected
Be accommodating and not authoritative
Stand up for yourself
Put the child's needs first
It's ok to share events with the birth mom
Call the kids on holidays/birthdays
Make traditions, create new holidays
Spend time on neutral ground
Ask the kids for ideas

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If you have questions about the necessity of an item, contact your child's teacher for clarification
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Specific brands are sometimes requested for a reason, check with the teacher before buying generic
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Find out if students will be pooling supplies before choosing custom items for your child's personal use

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New Board / Is it a good idea to hide vegetables in my kids' food?
« on: November 17, 2021, 09:33:55 am »
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Hiding veggies in other foods can be a great way to pack extra nutrients into your kids' meals if they are picky or refuse to try vegetables
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While hiding vegetables is a short-term fix, moms caution not to consider this a long-term strategy; it's important to establish healthy eating habits early on--without being sneaky!
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If your kids already love vegetables, there's no need to hide them! Keep offering fresh and prepared veggies for snacks and at mealtime

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